Finding Your 'Fit' in a Therapist
“Finding the right fit” in a therapist is a phrase we often hear, but it’s important to delve deeper into what it really entails. It means finding a professional with whom you feel genuinely comfortable and understood—someone whose therapeutic approach resonates with your personal needs and goals. This process is highly individual and can involve assessing various factors, including their expertise, communication style and so much more.
Investing time in this process is an investment in your mental health and overall well-being. Ask yourself - Is this a person whom I feel comfortable with or someone I will grow to feel comfortable with over time?
It’s crucial to acknowledge that coming to this understanding and feeling truly comfortable with your therapist can take time, as it involves building trust which takes time and does not happen immediately. Patience and persistence are essential as you explore different options to find a therapist who best supports your well-being and might include a few sessions before you know for certain or even consulting with different therapists before you find the right match.
Here are a few tips to help you in your search:
Identify Your Needs: Reflect on what you hope to achieve from therapy and what qualities you’re looking for in a therapist. I often encourage prospective patients during an initial consultation to consider what qualities they hope to find in a therapist while also considering any traits or approaches that would not be helpful for them.
Research and Referrals: Look into therapists’ backgrounds, areas of expertise, and client reviews. Personal recommendations from friends, family, or healthcare providers can also be valuable.
Consultations: Use the consultation as an opportunity to ask questions, discuss your needs, and gauge how comfortable you feel with them.
Trust Your Instincts: Pay attention to how you feel during and after your sessions. It’s important to feel heard, respected, and safe. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to seek out other options.
Give It Time: Building a therapeutic relationship takes time. It’s normal for it to take a few sessions to establish a connection and see progress. Be patient with yourself and the process.
At the end of the day, the connection and trust you build with your therapist will contribute more to a successful therapy experience than any specific technique or approach; without a strong connection, therapy can only go so far.